I’m at my wits’ end. Part of me wants to cut ties completely, move across the country, change my name, and start fresh. Another part is so angry I want to stay and fight.
My therapist says I have every right to set strong boundaries. The family has shown a consistent pattern of disregarding my feelings. Distance hasn’t been enough — they keep forcing their narrative that I’m the problem.
The betrayal has destroyed me. I can’t sleep without medication. I haven’t even thought about dating again because trusting anyone terrifies me. Some friends say I should “take the high road” and reconcile. I cut those friends off too.
Logically I know the baby is innocent, but every time I think about him I see the ultimate symbol of my sister’s husband’s betrayal and my ex-fiancée’s lies.
The idea of being “Uncle” to Dwight’s child while my parents fawn over him makes me physically ill.
So Reddit, AITA for refusing to forgive my sister’s husband and ex-fiancée? Am I wrong for wanting to cut ties with my entire family over this?
Any advice on how to move forward would be appreciated. Right now I feel like I’m drowning in betrayal and gaslighting.
Writing this all out has been therapeutic. Thank you to anyone who read this far.
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